When I google "obese dysmorphia," I get a bunch of sites that talk about people who have lost weight that think they still look fat. I'm the opposite - I see a person that is thinner than I really am! Has anybody read about this, or know anything about it???
I wrote the other day that our homework assignment in meditation class was to contemplate one of the 7 Essential Attitudes each day. Here are the Attitudes; Nonjudging, Patience, Beginner's Mind, Trust, Nonstriving, Acceptance, and Letting Go.
Here's Acceptance:
Often, to be able to accept what comes into awareness, you must pass through periods of intense feelings such as anger, fear, or grief. These feelings themselves require acceptance.
Acceptance means seeing things exactly as they are rather than as you think they are or as you think they should be. Remember things can only change in the present moment. You have to see things as they are and yourself as you are - truly - in this moment if you wish to change, heal or transform yourself or your life.
Acceptance includes softening and opening to what is here. The sense of struggle is released. By ceasing to deny and fight with the way things are now, you can find yourself with more energy to heal and transform what is here.
Acceptance does not mean you have to like everything or that you have to take a passive attitude. Acceptance simply means willingness to see things as they are deeply, truthfully and completely. This attitude sets the stage for acting in the most potent and healty way in your life no matter what is happening.
So - yeah. Need to work on that one.
First thing I did is take pictures of myself this morning. If I have to look at myself through a camera lens to see what I really look like - then that's what I'll do. Here I am! (yah, forgot to smile...)
I feel the same way....so I generally try to take the pictures but gave in and put up some pics of me finally....and when I see them I am tempted to remember how I really look these days...hope the remainder of your week goes well.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you shared what was written about Acceptance -- such good advice. Seems simple, but at the same time I know I'd find it challenging.
ReplyDeleteI really struggle with body image. I'm so self-conscious all the time, and no matter how many compliments I may get, I haven't accepted the way I look yet ... I know I'm working hard, but I've got a long way to go ... it's something I struggle with daily, but I try not to let it get me down. Hating the reflection in the mirror isn't going to get me any thinner - so I try and channel that dissatisfaction into workouts at the gym so I can finally get to where I want to be.